Dainin Katagiri was given to me by a flyfishing buddy from Hawaii. Returning to Silence: Zen practice in daily life gave me a sip of healing broth I needed at a time in my life when almost everything seemed totally out of control. In the middle of the chaos, Katagiri’s words were a refuge. I don’t recall having any great insights or feeling filled with awe about Zen. What I do remember is a sudden moment of realization as I was playing with my daughter that this form was evidence of our relationship – in this moment.
Our daily life is just like casting pebbles into an ocean that is very serene. Every form, every action is just like this. The moment when the pebble becomes one with the ocean you can immediately see the ripples. These ripples are called “form” – form of washing your face, form of having a meal, form of doing gassho, form of walking, form of doing zazen…. Ripples are the form of action.
Out of contact emerges relationship. In relationship all things are one.
Thank you for practising,
Genju
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Relationship is our great teacher, always holding up the mirror (just like a vast, calm ocean).
…and sometimes those mirrors are like the ones in a circus show! 😦
I have always had a resistance to the idea of “being one with…” felt too much like enmeshment. Pebble entering the ocean works for me.